Well we are quickly approaching September, and I feel like I am not ready (in every way!). I feel my house is not organized to my liking! I feel like mentally I am still trying to prepare myself for what is in store...I am going to be a 28 year old mother to teenagers! Wow, that sounds weird!
This is my "venting" post because what better way to vent than to post my frustrations/concerns/excitements to the world!! I have received numerous responses and comments (vocal and written) about our adoptions. While many of them have been supportive, there have also been many that are "not so supportive", or feel it necessary to voice nasty opinions. Well, okay whatever...I have pretty tough skin but sometimes it does get to me and I may doubt a little about what we are doing. I find myself asking, "what are we doing, are we crazy? are we doing the right thing? Blah, blah, blah!". I have to remind myself that some people are just curious, and are not very tactful in asking questions! :)
I came across the article below on Stephanee's website (who is also adopting two girls from Ukraine). This article is by Stephen Curtis Chapman (Christian Music Artist) who recently lost his little girl who he adopted from China, to a tragic accident. It is little long, but worth the read.
This is my "venting" post because what better way to vent than to post my frustrations/concerns/excitements to the world!! I have received numerous responses and comments (vocal and written) about our adoptions. While many of them have been supportive, there have also been many that are "not so supportive", or feel it necessary to voice nasty opinions. Well, okay whatever...I have pretty tough skin but sometimes it does get to me and I may doubt a little about what we are doing. I find myself asking, "what are we doing, are we crazy? are we doing the right thing? Blah, blah, blah!". I have to remind myself that some people are just curious, and are not very tactful in asking questions! :)
I came across the article below on Stephanee's website (who is also adopting two girls from Ukraine). This article is by Stephen Curtis Chapman (Christian Music Artist) who recently lost his little girl who he adopted from China, to a tragic accident. It is little long, but worth the read.
FRANKLIN, Tennessee (CNN) -- According to UNICEF, there are 143 million children in the world who have lost one or both parents.In America alone, there are half a million children in foster care, and approximately 120,000 of these children are waiting to be adopted. In many countries, children are too often orphaned or abandoned because of poverty, disabilities and disease; every 15 seconds, a child loses a parent because of AIDS. These are staggering facts that can seem overwhelming and discouraging, but I believe that God has a loving plan for each child, and that plan is you and me.Caring for these children is not the job of governments or institutions; instead, it is the job of families, people and communities. As Christians, our compassion is simply a response to the love that God has already shown us. Mother Teresa would constantly remind those who worked with her that the Bible clearly teaches that whatever we do for the least of these, we do for Jesus. So in a very real sense, caring for orphans is a chance to meet the person of Jesus in "the guise of human suffering." This is an invitation from the heart of God to know him and to experience his love.Nine years ago, my wife and my eldest daughter, Emily, traveled to Haiti on a mission trip. Having been exposed to extreme poverty for the first time, Emily returned home with a determined passion to make a difference in the lives of at-risk children.Only 12 years old, Emily went on an all-out campaign to persuade us to adopt. She bought a book on international adoption with her Christmas money and would read it to us regularly. She began fervently praying and writing letters to Mary Beth and me, encouraging us to consider giving a waiting child a home. Emily knew God was leading us in the direction of adoption; however, Mary Beth and I were not yet convinced.My wife and I had always supported the idea of adoption, and as Christians, we understood the importance of loving and caring for others. But what I had not yet grasped was that adoption is a physical picture of what Jesus has done for me. I did nothing to deserve God's love; in fact, I was living as an orphan, without hope. Yet God chose to pursue a relationship with me, and through the death of his son Jesus, I was adopted into God's family.My wife and I began moving toward adoption with fear and trembling and asking all the questions people ask. I remember Mary Beth crying herself to sleep at night saying, "What are we doing? I can't do this." However, God kept reassuring us that this was the direction he was leading us. It was a huge journey of faith for us.In May of 2000, we found ourselves in a hotel room in China's Hunan province, welcoming the newest member of our family, Shaohannah Hope. From that moment, we began our journey into the world of adoption, orphan care and Shaohannah's Hope.We went on to adopt Stevey Joy and Maria. Recently, our youngest daughter, Maria, passed from life on this earth and is now safely in the arms of Jesus. We have been completely overwhelmed by the love and support of so many during this time of deep, deep sadness. Through all that we've experienced, one thing we still know is true: God's heart is for the orphan.In our travels to Latin America, Africa and Asia, we have visited many different orphanages. If you look past the surroundings and into the eyes of the children, they all have the same look. They seem to convey, "I don't think this is what I was made for. Where do I belong?"These children are crying out for the hope of a family, for the hope of community, for the hope of a permanent love. Our mission, and the mission of our adoption charity, Shaohannah's Hope, is to show hope to these children and to mobilize people, families and communities to be living examples of God's love for them.We started Shaohannah's Hope in order to connect willing families with waiting children, but the reality is that there are many orphans who cannot be adopted. Even though we may not be able to bring them into our homes, we still have the opportunity to show them the hope we have.If only 7 percent of the 2 billion Christians in the world would care for a single orphan in distress, there would effectively be no more orphans. If everybody would be willing to simply do something to care for one of these precious treasures, I think we would be amazed by just how much we could change the world.We can each do something, whether it is donating, adopting, fostering, mentoring, visiting orphans or supporting families that have taken in orphans. You can change the world for an orphan.
Enough said?? Yes, I think so! Every time I read this, it becomes more clear as to why we are doing this. We are SO extremely excited about the direction our lives have taken us. A few years ago, I would never have thought we would be where we are now. Thank you to our family and friends that have been so supportive! More to come as we prepare to leave....
11 comments:
I want to applaud you in your decision to adopt, no matter what negative or discouraging remarks you hear. I know the feeling you have concerning your age. I am going to be 26 next year when we travel for our 2 kids (our first).
Teenaged girls! You could be a grandmother in your late thirties!!! (theoretically speaking, of course!)
How exciting that so soon you will be doing this all again and that it will be so different from your first time! Truly an adventure.
Maladyetz Tebya.
I hear ya' on the age thing too! I am just turning 30 in a week and will soon have five kids aged 12-4!!! I think I'm over the weird looks :) Okay the comment about the grandma in the 30s throws me though!! That would be something! I am SO excited though about your adoption and how soon it is coming. It will be a blessing to all - hard at times but certainly awesome too. I can't wait to hear about your travel!
Hey, if you want to talk anytime and compare thoughts on raising two newly adopted older girls, feel free to give me a call! I think I emailed you my number.
Absolutely! All around! I too am 28 and have been home with our third one year. You are doing an amazing thing! I know we are lucky too getting to spend our lives with our adopted children. Not only are you changing these girls entire future you are keeping a family together! That is AMAZING!!!! No other word can explain it...Really! Just don’t listen. If we listened or needed other people’s opinions no one would ever adopt! Stick to your feelings and continue doing good in this world! Not every one can say they are doing the same.
I think it's wonderful, not only that you are adopting again but that you are reuniting Kyle's family. His sisters deserve just as much love and care as he does--it's not their fault they were born first! LOL
You will be wonderful parents of teenagers and God will give you what you need (I often remind myself of that ;)).
Just 3 weeks till you travel - WOW! I know how busy you are as you finalize all the details.
Parenting teens at 28? Sure it's not typical, but you'll do great. As another poster said, God will give you what you need!
I love your post and I have to tell you that I am glad I read it at home and not work because I am sitting here crying! I loved the article! I think its amazing what you guys are doing. You are a great mom to Kyle and you will be a great mom to the girls too. I am sure its stressful at times but You have more strength then anyone I know and whatever challenges are ahead I know you can handle them. I can not wait to meet your girls!
Forget the downers and remember that you have a huge, supporting family behind you guys and routing for you all the way!
I hope you will remember me, but we adopted a little boy (one of three, two from another city) this winter, from the same Internat where your two girls now live in Mariupol. I also know some missionaries who work with older kids from that Internat when they get out. We also have an adopted Ukrainian teen, a 16-year-old boy. So I can see your situation from many angles. And I just want to say this: YOU ARE DOING THE BEST THING YOU COULD EVER DO IN YOUR LIFE.
Your son will never forget that you did not forget about his sisters. The sisters will never forget that you gave them the chance to be with their brother. And more importantly, that you gave them a chance to live a life that is not a horrible, wretched disaster. When these children age out at 16 (or sometimes younger, like our son) from the Internat, what they face is worse than you can possibly imagine. YES, God has called you to these children - all three of them. I hope and pray that your example will help those who have been negative to you to soften their hearts and selfish, narrow views.
That said, I also want to tell you that it is not always easy. Best to prepare yourself for that, and to always remember WHY you are doing this. The girls will test you. They have been through a lot. They have lived in a terrible environment at that Internat. They are likely starved for parental love, but also going to reject it because it is so different. It will go back and forth. But you know you are doing the right thing. And in time, you will find your balance with them. Do not get scared when you have hard days. This is so normal. And God is always going to give you the energy and wisdom you need to do this. You've answered the call, and He is SO PROUD OF YOU! HOORAY!!!!!!!!!! - Kelly
Ken & Joy,
It was great to meet you today! I hope you know that the whole Colorado crew are so excited that you were able to come and meet Tanya & Luba and that they will be adopted into a loving home where we can still keep in touch with them! God works in amazing ways. We will be following along on your journey to bring them home!
Blessings,
Kari
It is tough sometimes to hear others negativity but remember this is your destiny. We do not plan these things they are giving to us when we are least aware we are supposed to follow in our lives.
I know I never planned for three and a possible fourth but there was a reason bigger then me and for you too!
Leanna
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